Needy Folks Rant

I know, I know…..it’s been a LONG TIME since I posted. There have been a few changes that have taken place in my life since I last posted. I sold my house, got married, moved (still in the DC metro area) and hubby moved up. WHEW!

Okay, back the post. Do you all know of people who NEED to be NEEDED? You know, those people who want to constantly give you advice (as if they know EVERYTHING), want you to call them and talk to them all the time (notice that order), constantly keeping “check” on you (not in a concerned way), gets mad when you have OTHER friends and have a life OUTSIDE of them?

I had a few folks like that in my life, previously. That was at a point in my life when I wasn’t very secure and needed outside attention. Now, I am a little older and wiser and have my Mom’s intuition where I “read” folks’ motives from 2-3 sentences.

People who NEED to be NEEDED are INSECURE, as well as the folks who feed into their “need”.

I knew a person who was always telling how I should say this, do this, play games with men, etc. Years later, I finally told her (now that I’ve matured and saw what was really going on) how I didn’t appreciate how she was always telling ME what to do, punking me in front of others and making jokes of my mistakes in front of others (<—-we’ll get back to that in a sec).

Before then, she told me that she’d noticed a “change” in me. What? Did she mean that I am doing what I want to do and not what she advised or told to do? Is that the change she meant? She told me that I wasn’t “the same XXXXXX that I used to be”. Did she mean that I wasn’t that YES girl that did anything she (and others) told/asked me to do?

Another thing is people who make jokes of another person’s short-comings or faults. Bringing up OLD stuff that could be embarrassing to a person, and making a joke out of it in front of others (who were not involved with the original story) is not cute. It also shows a lack of respect for that person, especially, if you knew that person was embarrassed or sensitive about that situation. This has happened to me with people who I thought were my friend. Friends don’t make public jokes of you or try to publicly embarrass you. Again, shows a sign of insecurity.

Life changes and as one grows, you view things differently. Now, in my life, material things don’t mean crap to me (designer clothes, labels, having a big house, etc.). God has a way of showing us what is truly important in life. Right now, being a great wife, good Christian and respecting others (and vice versa) are what are important to me. I also am VERY careful with placing the label of FRIEND on people. There are TRUE friends and then there are associates and then there are people you know. Those persons I’ve mentioned in the previous paragraphs are in the “people you know” category. Get my drift? I know them, but I choose not to associate with them.

I see a lot of people who talk down to others, “show off” what they “have”, are loud when they speak in public (and not performing on stage), constantly have to “prove” to the world that they are “at a certain level” in life. That stuff is permanently off of my radar and I choose not to associate with those type of people.

The type of people that I choose to surround myself with are loving, funny, God-fearing, caring, people who are there for you, no matter the day our hour. THOSE are who I call FRIENDS.

I just need a few things in life and PEOPLE who need to be needed ain’t one of them. I need God. Following Him gives me all of my needs and some of wants.