Moving, Unpacking, Purging

Let me start this post by saying that I am a PACK RAT in rehab! I am slowing getting out of my “keeping everything” ways. This became VERY apparent during our move. Mind you, hubby had his clothes and a few other necessities that all fit in his car. I, on the other hand, had 10 years worth of HOUSE STUFF and 3 moves during that time period. Can you say RELEASE? LOL!! I did a lot of entertaining in my previous home and had a lot of “stuff”. Some I need, some I don’t need.

Okay, don’t shoot me for this, but, I still have my notes from my undergrad and grad school engineering classes (DOH……stop throwing tomatoes!). I know, I know….they are going in the trash when I open the boxes! I am keeping some of my MBA course work because they have a lot of good case-study work that I actually refer to and use, currently. I thought, at one point, I was going to go back to school to work on my doctorate. I still may, but um, these notes are not going to help me! LOL…. So, they’ve gotta go!

I got rid of A LOT of stuff before I sold my 2nd home in March 2008. I sold a lot of stuff on Craigslist, Ebay, and email solicitations. I did get to the point where I said, “I am tired and I’ll worry about this later”. I told the movers to just pack it and I’ll worry about it later. LATER IS HERE!!! Again, I am back on Craigslist and Ebay, selling away at stuff (Elfa shelving, a snow blower, etc.)!

Here is the kicker, YES, I have clothes that I want to get back into and can’t currently fit in. I’ve come to the realization that once I do get back to size, I’m going to want NEW stuff and this stuff needs to be donated to Goodwill, Salvation Army or someone who can TRULY use this stuff. See, Pack Rat mentality decreasing…. T-minus 10 and counting! 🙂

We received a lot of nice wedding gifts that are being used, IMMEDIATELY. The only thing that we aren’t using immediately are the formal china pieces. Since we don’t have a china cabinet and have limited kitchen cabinet storage, I was wondering where we were going to store our china. NOTE: I HATE cardboard boxes to store stuff in! Hubby and I were getting some stuff in The Container Store and ran across these cute dish storage cases. China storage problem solved!

I just know that the trash man is going to look at our unit like, “WHAT THE HECK WENT ON HERE?!” on tomorrow when the trash goes out tomorrow!

Needy Folks Rant

I know, I know…..it’s been a LONG TIME since I posted. There have been a few changes that have taken place in my life since I last posted. I sold my house, got married, moved (still in the DC metro area) and hubby moved up. WHEW!

Okay, back the post. Do you all know of people who NEED to be NEEDED? You know, those people who want to constantly give you advice (as if they know EVERYTHING), want you to call them and talk to them all the time (notice that order), constantly keeping “check” on you (not in a concerned way), gets mad when you have OTHER friends and have a life OUTSIDE of them?

I had a few folks like that in my life, previously. That was at a point in my life when I wasn’t very secure and needed outside attention. Now, I am a little older and wiser and have my Mom’s intuition where I “read” folks’ motives from 2-3 sentences.

People who NEED to be NEEDED are INSECURE, as well as the folks who feed into their “need”.

I knew a person who was always telling how I should say this, do this, play games with men, etc. Years later, I finally told her (now that I’ve matured and saw what was really going on) how I didn’t appreciate how she was always telling ME what to do, punking me in front of others and making jokes of my mistakes in front of others (<—-we’ll get back to that in a sec).

Before then, she told me that she’d noticed a “change” in me. What? Did she mean that I am doing what I want to do and not what she advised or told to do? Is that the change she meant? She told me that I wasn’t “the same XXXXXX that I used to be”. Did she mean that I wasn’t that YES girl that did anything she (and others) told/asked me to do?

Another thing is people who make jokes of another person’s short-comings or faults. Bringing up OLD stuff that could be embarrassing to a person, and making a joke out of it in front of others (who were not involved with the original story) is not cute. It also shows a lack of respect for that person, especially, if you knew that person was embarrassed or sensitive about that situation. This has happened to me with people who I thought were my friend. Friends don’t make public jokes of you or try to publicly embarrass you. Again, shows a sign of insecurity.

Life changes and as one grows, you view things differently. Now, in my life, material things don’t mean crap to me (designer clothes, labels, having a big house, etc.). God has a way of showing us what is truly important in life. Right now, being a great wife, good Christian and respecting others (and vice versa) are what are important to me. I also am VERY careful with placing the label of FRIEND on people. There are TRUE friends and then there are associates and then there are people you know. Those persons I’ve mentioned in the previous paragraphs are in the “people you know” category. Get my drift? I know them, but I choose not to associate with them.

I see a lot of people who talk down to others, “show off” what they “have”, are loud when they speak in public (and not performing on stage), constantly have to “prove” to the world that they are “at a certain level” in life. That stuff is permanently off of my radar and I choose not to associate with those type of people.

The type of people that I choose to surround myself with are loving, funny, God-fearing, caring, people who are there for you, no matter the day our hour. THOSE are who I call FRIENDS.

I just need a few things in life and PEOPLE who need to be needed ain’t one of them. I need God. Following Him gives me all of my needs and some of wants.